Coping with Omissions

Last night I attending an event where my daughter was in a school pageant. She is a freshman at her high school. During the announcement of her she was introduced as: Here is Hannah, she is the daughter of (mothers Name) she is a freshman and etc, etc, no mention of her father.

This is at least the 8Th time this has occurred. I have confronted this with her mother on several occasions, she has two parents, two parents who love her and support her. There i sit in the stands cheering her on, and am completely omitted. The sad thing is that while this hurts me, it hurts Hannah more. She is embarrassed by this, and can be ridiculed by it. Her mother does not seem to care about the damage this does to Hannah. Sadly, her motives of hurting me always out weigh the motive of doing what is best for the children.

I did not say anything, it does not do any good. In the past when I mentioned it to Hannah, her response was that her mother did that. And I know she is right.

Yes it hurts, to drive over 100 miles to support her and not that I expected to be recognized, but I should have been recognized as her daddy.

The alienation continues, and only the children suffer.

If this happens to you, do not discuss it with the children, discuss it with the parent, and if possible, get there early and discuss it with the event planner and make sure your name is included. - Better to get an audio tape of the event for proof later. Which I did.