Its been a while

Well its been a while since I've visited here, partly because I have been in mourning.

right at the 11th hour in my custody case, where I knew I had a great chance, my attorney informed me that the judge instructed him that even if I prevailed I would have to pay her attorney fees in excess of $20 thousand dollars! Well I don't have that kind of money, and knew that if I got stuck with that, I would be putting my family at risk, it was a heart wrenching decision. So we agreed to settle. She kept custody and we significantly modified the visitation schedule. Which she continues to ignore and violate. But in this state there is nothing I can do. I don't have the financial resources to haul her into court each time she violates the order, and there is no other way to force her to comply. So after two and a half years of fighting in court, I still got screwed and the children got it worse.

Welcome to America where the courts punish Dads who are trying to do the right thing and reward pathetic moms simply because they are female.

Now that's off my chest, I hope to use this blog for encouragement of other dads out there who miss their kids and are doing all you can to be a part of their life. It is difficult at times, when the custodial mother does everything they can to intercede on your relationship. When you are thousands of miles away and can't even get a phone call through, when you are isolated and out of touch. What ever the reason, your heart breaks and you miss your children. I hope I will be able to find resources to put here that will help you be the best dad you can be.

The End is Here

Well, last Thursday we went to court to finalize the custody situation with my children, unfortunately I did not prevail in my case of gaining custody of my children. However, we were able to acquire substantial gains. The specifics obviously I can't speak to here. Suffice it to say that the situation with the children will improve and their future looks brighter.

While I am sad that I do not have custody, I am comforted that I know and they know that I did all I could to insure them a brighter future and a more secure future.

I will continue with this blog to help all other Dad's to there who are in similar situations, and who are facing the trials and pains of being away from their children.

Tomorrow

Well unless something changes, tomorrow is the day I go to my custody hearing. I am as nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs. Everything I've been hoping for for 10 years comes to fruition tomorrow. My attorney tells me not to get my hopes up, my gut tells me to be cautiously optimistic. Frankly I am scared to death! Your prayers are appreciated as we seek to save our children from the situation their in, I pray that the Judge will hear our pleas, see the situation for what it is and do the right thing.

I'll post again when I know something - unfortunately the judge has 30 days to issue his ruling so who knows when he will rule.